By: Kej

Kej — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 04:42:40 +0000

The family courts do not assume that both parents contribute equally to a high conflict custody dispute: the fact of the conflict alone suffices to quash joint custody, whereupon it’s the status quo in the residence of the child, the historical primary caregiver, and political correctness that dictate the custody order. Beyond evincing that there is intra-parental conflict, that the child is being alienated by one parent from the other counts for very little.The court may order therapy for the child, but will usually do nothing to curb the parental behavior that’s causing the alienation. The alienation problem is regarded as `solved’ by awarding one parent the bulk of the power to care for the child, and reducing the other parent to at best an occasional visitor. Putting the child in counseling without alleviating the stress on them may only deepen the bind they experience.An unscrupulous parent who stands to win sole custody on the grounds of status quo, the historical primary caregiver, and political correctness, once the prospect of joint custody is obviated, is encouraged to create, increase, or stage conflict over the parenting arrangement which is probably the main driving force, accounting for the high incidence of parental alienation.Judges are not uncomprehending that parental alienation occurs, inclined to give the alienator the benefit of the doubt, or err on the side of caution when abuse is falsely alleged: they are rather unmoved by parental alienation being present in a case because it doesn’t figure directly into the framework they use to decide cases.

By: Jerry

Jerry — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 18:53:06 +0000

As a father who is prevented from seeing his daughter, (although I already have parental rights) since I split up with my ex due to relationship problems as a result of her constant mood swings and constantly looking for arguments in May, 2010, I find it absolutely disgusting and intolerable that I have to jump through hoops, to have access to the child and face the prospect of tremendous costs to take her to court, which one is prevented from doing, due to having a mortgage and stretched to the hilt, as I already pay regular maintenance through the CSA. When I mentioned this at the time to the CSA and advised I was prevented from access to the child they contacted her, which had the adverse affect of creating friction and stirring things up. She contacted me at work and left a message with a work colleague to the affect that, If I wished to see my child I would need to sue her throughout every court in the land. How diabolical! My ex is a W.P.C., who quite frankly is not fit to wear the uniform. When will the Government of either party see commonsense and introduce a system that is fair to all especially the child, who needs their blood father. The current system is a total mess and a shambles creating bad feeling and spitefulness. My ex as a W.P.C. earns considerably more than me and the money I pay for maintenance, in my opinion, does not go to my daughter, but to the grandmother to supplememt her pension, as there is no obligation under the current legal system to prove where the money is spent. Although I believe in supporting my child as the father there is a fairer way to implement this system, which should be means tested and not used by the parent with care as a revenge mechanism, which quite clearly is the case at the moment. The statement from her own lips indicated and supported this, which was I will CSA you to the hilt.

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