Comments on: Mother Continues Alienation and Child Abuse by Not Involving Father In New School Choice

By: admin

admin — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 19:31:49 +0000

Thank you for your post. The best advice is to join Families Need Fathers http://www.FNF.org.uk and get involved in the growing movement to change family laws so dads have equal rights

By: mr A H,

mr A H, — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 18:03:17 +0000

I have been seperated from the ex wife since feb, 2010. I have two children both under the age of 12, both live with mother. I left the family home due to mothers unreasonable behaviour and language in front of children.Since this time mother has informed schools and advised that her children have sufferd emotional stress, but had mother been able to control her temper language then they would not have been subjected to any of the above.
I have never been a violent man and struggle to cope with the absence of my son.
I see my daughter age 7 on a regular basis and she says my son is desperate to see me however mother and mothers sister makes him feel disloyal if he makes contact.
Mother has now got child services involved whos interest are for the likley hood of emotional stress the children may experience. I feel I have been treated unfairly as they do not inform myself about meetings welfare and any other aspects of parenting that a father should be able to be involved in.
In short after paying several debts generated by my ex wife and a the maintanence monthly as well as having to live to the bare essensials myself i dont know what else to do.
my status is “going through a divorce” but after reading several comments on the site there doesnt seem much hope for me. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Frank Plank

Frank Plank — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 21:32:37 +0000

Admin,

It’s Frank again! Listen sir, I told you the score and the “plan” a few months ago…thank you for publishing my comment. Ok here’s my story of what happened to me in court the other day! The Ex was served the court papers in her place of work (I just love my PI) during August. Within ONE DAY of that event her flat went up for sale and her misguided fool of a boyfriend’s house went up for rent (that’s where her and my girl live). So after getting a very short and brief reply from her solicitor stating that the ex does not oppose the contact application or indeed “contact” MY solicitor then replies in a positive light but asks WHY homes are up for rent and sale. That was in August…

September goes by but no reply…October arrives and we’re in court! I then realise that I have been tricked! The Ex’s solicitor announces “oh they are moving to a sh1thole town 150 miles away in a few weeks time”…yeah…a fait accompli! No time to stick through a PSO order…I was had!

Ex suddenly announces that she does not want to see me or speak to me so therefore does not want any involvement in contact! Her mother then says the same…all down to aggressive emails???? One option is given to me? I can see my girl but ONLY in the presence of the boyfriend once a fortnight for one hour in the new town! My response? “Tell them to stick that up their arses!”

So off we go into court…Her solicitor then announces to the court that my girl (2 1/2) has got a father and I am JUST the biological father and nothing more??? And also that they are moving in a few weeks and I was given my chance and I blew it blah blah blah!

The magistrates didn’t even bat an eyelid at any of this! The fact that my girl is being taken without out my agreement meant f*ck all to them??? You see under PR I should have a say…PR was a result of an act of parliament YET ignored by the court? They just responded with “oh well…this will have to be referred to the new town”…and then the scumbags said “think of your daughter”…I felt like shouting back at them “I AM THINKING OF MY DAUGHTER YOU FOOKING TW@TS! WHY DO YOU THINK I’M HERE????”

There is one solution to this burning issue that affects us i.e. the rent-a-dad syndrome, mother denying contact and the abuse of PR: a very peaceful protest that I fear that most dads have not got the balls to do: TO STOP USING THE SYSTEM! Yep…boycott the system…all dads just halt their cases and refuse to engage with CAFCASS and the Courts…turn the Family Court into the Mary Celeste! Those involved with the system (the Vested Interests) will SH1T themselves due to the gravy train coming to a halt! They will then complain to the Government and the government will be forced to take note! That is what we have to do…hit them where it hurts: in the Wallet! Judges, magistrates, solicitors, barristers you name it…they are raking it in from this nonsense! CAFCASS chiefs actually LOVE being short staffed and over subscribed as they can then demand more of OUR MONEY to fund their perverted interest in destroying the fundamental thread of a decent society: Parents!

If you want to destroy a liberal then take away one thing from them: money! We need to put the “Parents” back into the “Family” of the Court system and that means putting BOTH parents on a level playing field i.e. 50/50 responsibility, access and shared residence…parents can then fight from there and not this sick 0/100 setup that does nothing but make money for those who do not give a toss about the Child!

Boycott the system…that is all there is left to do! Starve them of our money…if 100,000 dads do it that would be enough to bring the legal aid gravy train, CAFCASS and the Family Court Vested Insterests to their knees! They thrive on our issues and all we do is p1ss and moan on blogs, forums and then…we realise we have lost our kids! No..this is wrong…it’s all about money…we need to STOP giving them our money! The “target” is the government and they don’t give two hoots UNTIL that is the money stops! Then they are presented with some choices: (a) Bailout the Courts, solicitors etc (doubt it), (b) shut down the Family Courts and CAFCASS (crikey you’d see judges etc on the street protesting about that one) OR (and most likely) (c) change the rules to get business back up and running! You see the Childrens Act is simply a Business Plan that MPs (most are solicitors and barristars) drew up to keep business booming! We need to STOP using it…we need to go on strike and boycott the family court system because that is all that is left to do! STOP the gravy train! It’s broke so why do we continue to use such a busted system??????? Why are we forced into a LIP situation that does nothing but affects our health and well being??? Jeez are we thick or what??

Let me know if you’re interested in what I said above, if so then I’ll contact you via this site. But come on sir…they do not give a toss about you! It’s time to stop giving a toss about them! Remember: they NEED you…without YOU (and us) they are nothing BUT they have big debts, big mortgages, posh cars etc…they need OUR money! This has NOTHING to do with the child! Remember…this is nothing to do with your ex missus…had she not had the the “power” in the first place then you would not be going through this…just remember that!

I hope to hear from you sir.

Yours

Frank Plank

By: Derek

Derek — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 12:20:05 +0000

I also have suffered similar to your story and my ex had a lot of support from our daughters school with regard surname changes (without my permission) house moves etc.
It has come to light that my ex (after i was convicted of Harassment for continuing phone calls to speak to our daughter) was happily suggesting to anyone that had influence in the matter that i was not allowed to be part of my daughters life due to abusing her at the age of 5. Giving that as the reason for me not being around. The reality of course is that the name change and house move meant it took time to find my daughter. Over the Last 9 years i have been petitioning Members of Parliament regarding the matter of Men, Women and Grandparents that are subjected to this form of emotional cruelty. I am seeking to make it a criminal offense for anyone regardless of sex to ignore a family court order. The party that has thus far worked hardest on the matter for all of us are “the Liberal Democrats” and for that reason i have not only changed my vote to Lib Dem but also joined the party and intend to stand as a councillor in 3 years and later an M.P. to see the changes come into law. Please consider joining, and making your story known to the Party now that they share power we may have a chance of pushing my plan through. Kind regards and please keep positive for the sake of your children. we will suceed. Derek Anthony Farmer (kardel100 on youtube)

By: admin

admin — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 14:18:27 +0000

Kevin

You are correct in what you say but it is fundamentally wrong for the mother to be deciding and arranging new schools without consulting mr but she seems intent on treating her partner as the father. This is parental alienation, which is a form of child abuse, do you agree?

By: kevin newey

kevin newey — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 12:19:15 +0000

if you have full parental rights then the school must give you information on everything. as for your ex and new partner looking at new schools there is nothing i think you can do, but what ever school she goes into they aain must provide the same equal information they provide your ex including your permission to go on trips etc