Comments on: I Just Want To Be A Good Dad

By: Dolly

Dolly — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 15:12:48 +0000

Intelligence and sipmliicty – easy to understand how you think.

By: chris knox

chris knox — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 20:05:15 +0000

your site is excellent thank you for all those that have set this up ,, The country however is a total joke sort this one out government , let fathers be a equal part in the upbringing of there children punish those that parent alianate , Broken Britain well dam fix it by changing the laws for fathers they would see a massive change , all fathers outh there like myself who are fighting for the welfare of there children Never NEVER QUIT NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES OUR CHILDREN WILL LEARN THE TRUTH
thank you again for this site whos prepared to go to parliment with me .

By: Debbie Spencer

Debbie Spencer — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 23:22:34 +0000

I am so saddened by all of your stories, my son is going through a court battle to get proper visiting rights to his son and I am so disgusted with any woman that can put her child through this. A child has a right to have the love from both parents and their respective families, I am also not allowed to see my two year old grandson and am not entitled to a reason why. I fought with my ex husband so that he would see his children and can honestly say I would never have dreamed of denying him his right to see his kids even though he had been abusive towards me. I love all four of my grand children and am at a loss as to what I can do to see my little grandson. I love my son so much but I am not blinded to his faults, he does not deserve the treatment handed out by his ex or the courts and cafcass.My son has lost everything, his job, his home and most importantly the right to see his son simply because his ex girlfriend does not want him in her life anymore. As the saying goes; The law is an ass.

By: mark turner

mark turner — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 21:08:38 +0000

I split from my wife nearly 2 years ago lost everthing house kids even the pets didn’t mind getting rid of mother in law as she is a control freak . i have taken her to court 6 times to get to c my kids but when i get something she says i did not agree with court order strange that so i wonder who was agreeing when the judge asked her .
Today she was seen hiding from me in solicitors door way with a friend who was seen checking to c if i had moved away . so she is up to something . BUT WHY USE KIDS AS A WEAPON. oh sorry forgot bitch mode.

By: Scott

Scott — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 18:27:43 +0000

I read Claires reply and that was refreshing to hear. My belief is that if you were married and planned the child(ren) and you split up then as long as the father is a hands on dad and a good dad etc and you all are local to your exes family as well as your own then the mother SHOULD NOT be avle to relocate simply because they meet another man. If they do then leave the kids with the dad and his/her family as they had planned. My ex wife is relocating an hour away to a town where he has bought a house close to his works and nearer to his unplanned 3 year old son. No other family live there. Hers and mine live with 10 min radius. We have all lived here all our lives yet her moving has made it complicated for me. In the last 3 yrs I have maintained a loving relationship with my daughter. I have always seen her regularly and love taking her to nursery and picking her up. We dressed up as Pirates for the local carnival and her school won first prize and we both were photographed in the local gazette. I want whats best for my daughter in terms of bringing her up with good manners and that she lives a healthy life. I want what the mum wants. Shes my little girl just as she is hers. It didn’t work out between us but thats not our daughters fault. I work shifts and that enabled me to take her to school etc but now I have to travel an hour away to pick her up and sometimes meet halfway in the services and on the odd occasion pick her up from nursery at 1pm take her around the town for the afternoon and then tea then drop her back. Its winter!! She is only 4 for heavens sake! She used to come over to her 2nd home where it is nice and cosy and she has her own room. Safe and cosy at this time of year. Her mum dictates to me. She thinks I confuse her when I put her bed next to mine and let her sfall asleep in mine and then I put her in hers when shes asleep. Shes fine she sleeps well shes with her daddy! We have hugged and kissed like parents do. The attention and love they need from both parents. If I was an absent father then there would be no problem. For the benefit of the child and there growth equal input from both parents living locally is beneficial. The experts say and I agree.

I think shes trying to make it harder for me. But I will ALWAYS be there for my little girl. Someday I hope she will come live with me.

I do believe she is bitter still but we separated 3.5 yrs ago and she has been with her b/f 2 yrs. Some women use there kids to get back at you. They will take your maintenance but they wish you would vanish!

By: Anthony

Anthony — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 23:52:35 +0000

The only thing that is keeping me with my girlfriend now is our daughter. I love my little girl so much and know that in this country UK law sides with the woman. I have said to my girlfriend i would happily leave if i would be given 50/50 custody, but she will not do this: claiming the usual SHE is my child, i gave birth to her speech!!

Irrelevant

I now have to live in this lie of a relationship – dont fear the child is still being brought up in a happy environment in fact i have never seen such a happy child (yes i’m sure we all say that). I look forward so much to coming home from work just to see my little girl. It would kill me not being able to do that everyday.

UK system is pathetically behind.

By: admin

admin — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 21:05:56 +0000

Thank you for your comment and your support.

I’m sorry to hear your situation but unfortunately it is frighteningly common. Any support or contribution to the site you can give will be greatly appreciated.

To be part of any legal protests you can email justice@fathers-rights.co.uk with your region in the uk.

Thank you

By: M

Mon, 08 Nov 2010 19:51:06 +0000

I have just found your blog, read significant amounts of it and to say that your story and experience resonate with me greatly would be somewhat of an understatement. Since splitting with my Ex we have operated a shared parenting arrangement on a 50/50 basis for 13 months. It has gone mostly without issue but certain difficulties led to an application to the court. At our first directions hearing the judge presiding over the case suggested that this was a kid gloves situation as we were so close to long term agreement, a month passed and we had another directions hearing this time with a different judge who, within 5 minutes of not really being interested in the case, deeply upset my child and all but destroyed my life. I was given 2 hours at a contact centre once a week, after caring for my daughter for half her time for over a year. My daughter has gone from having two homes to having one and only seeing me when ordered. I have changed everything to cater for her, my working hours and practices, I have had to turn away business on the basis of having a child that I want to care for who loves living with me yet none of this made any difference whatsoever. A judgement passed without consideration has enabled my ex to weaponise our daughter and is now actively alienating me. We are back in court again soon, for reasons that aren’t overly clear but what is clear is that the British Family Court system is so alarmingly arbitrary and adversarial as to ensure that the child loses in every single instance. The day before we went to court we had agreed to place our differences aside for the sake of our daughter and in the blink of an eye a disconnected public servant destroyed any chance we may have had of doing this, made a child deeply unhappy and created yet another father who only wants to be part of his child’s life. I’d like to offer my support to your case and I’d like to be part of anything which changes the premise for family cases to follow the Australian model. Our system is patently patently wrong and it must change because the more children that go through it, the more children that will be hurt.

Best,
M

By: Frank

Frank — Sun, 07 Nov 2010 20:51:16 +0000

I just read this and sympathize a lot. I am in Canada, and have an ex that took my daughter away at age 3, and even supervised visitations faded out to nothing by age 7. I missed 12 full years of my daughter’s life after that, no amount of court changed that. What I did get was child support increases. Skip to now: Thanx to events in January in which my partner at the time set in motion, I have a healthy relationship with my daughter, now age 20. But get this. Her mother is attempting to get A RETROACTIVE INCREASE IN CHILD SUPPORT, for the child she never even allowed phone contact, or even a mailing address. And I actually have to go back to court again to block this attempt. The courts really do have a long way to go to step into the 21st century, be it here or in Europe, or anywhere for that matter. I wish you all the best in your battle. All we do is hope for the best, and worst case, your daughter will be old enough to make her own choices, just as mine did.

By: admin

admin — Sun, 07 Nov 2010 18:47:31 +0000

Claire

Thank you, we need more good women like you to help us make changes to the law for the best interest of our children.