Comments on: Parental Responsibility

By: antony forbes

antony forbes — Sat, 17 Nov 2012 14:49:15 +0000

hi im 28 yr old man i have 2 children daughter aged 4 and a son aged 7 i used to see them every weekend until a yr and a half ago my ex stopped me from seeing them as soon as i was in a new relationship there wasnt much i could do in the time i hadnt seen them as im in the army and i was away the whole yr and a half due to operational training and tours im now back in the uk and want to try and make contact but my ex is making it so hard i see my children in my local town in the streets and i cant even approach them without getting threatened i dont no what to do ive tried solicitors and all tht but it just dont go anywer im on my daughters birth certificate but not my sons i dont no what to do ?

By: Mr

Mr — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 09:46:06 +0000

Hi can anyone help?
I need as much information as possible on what rights my partner has over his son, as his mother keeps phoning with abuse saying he has none at all.
They were married and in the process of divorce and since the separation he sees his son every other day which he was lucky to as things were ok.
She works long hours so he has his son when she works and its always been the same for over two years but now because he is with me she doesn’t like it and has stopped it all and threatens the police and calls him names to there son and tells him things that an 8 year old doesn’t need to know its so unfair on the poor lad am his dad as all they want is for it to be how it used to be but she is doing all she can to keep th from each other.
What rights does he have to stop her doing all this?
I think it’s classed as child abuse se of the stuff she says to him the poor lad is scared of her, she told him if he sees his dad on the street to ignore him and run straight home like he’s some bad man.
And all because he’s moved on with his life when she was the one who cheated on him for the breakdown of there relationship she’s taking it out on there relationship and anyone can see how good a dad is he is to his son he would do anything to protect him. As tough as it gets he never slags her off to him and tell him it was her doin while she’s always got something bad to say to her son about his dad.
I never thought women could be like this but with seeing it all withy own eyes its shocked me how cruel, evil and vindictive some women will go just to get back as someone moving on with his life after what she caused.
Sorry to go on so much but been going on for some time time.

By: Sally

Sally — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 21:33:31 +0000

i am disgusted and appauled that ‘sick dad’ can make such sweeping statements! I have 3 children, 1 in full time childcare £600 per month, i work full time,yes that’ll be 40 hours a week, i get NO state handouts, nor do i ask or expect them. i get no help from my ex partner at all, and as i have pointed out to him on numerous occasions, being a father goes a lot further then the odd visit, or ruffling the kids hair up!! yes, there is the financial aspect, there is also the mundane day to day, and nightly wake up calls, not to mention the endless nappy changes, feeding, steralising and making up bottles, cuddling them to sleep when their teething, taking them to the doctors when their ill and so on.

so next time your having a rant sick dad, you maybe ought not to slag off the entire female population, and aim if firmly and squarly at the person whom you feel has done wrong to you!

By: mummy2holly

mummy2holly — Thu, 20 Sep 2012 17:21:02 +0000

hi there

i have a 22 month old child i wasn’t married to her father but he is on the birth certificate and now he is an absent father, he had no pr over her as i make all the decisions on her upbringing, he has not seen her since January, he has made no contact and doesn’t have to pay child maintenance due to personal circumstances, i have been with my current partner for one and a half years and has been in her life since she was 15 weeks old and i would say he has more pr than her real father, she classes my partner as her daddy what steps could i take for my partner to adopt her

By: sick dad

sick dad — Fri, 07 Sep 2012 23:02:41 +0000

Dawn doolan, for however much the ‘biological parent’ is a waste of space, i cannot stress enough how selfish you and your partner sound, yes by all means your partner can step in and be a dad to the kid, but he IS NOT the childs biological father, you and especially not him have any right to deny the child its right to its ‘dad’. We are all human and make mistakes, but your simple request to take his rights away, is politely, selfish.

I have never heard anything as despicable, the man ‘should’ see his kid, should pay for his kid of course, but at the end of the day regardless of anything, should have RIGHTS to his kid.

some woman seem to forget that they get like £180 per week (rent & council tax free) for NOTHING. (not working)

a man can go to work and walk out with £250 per week and have to pay £90 rent, £20 tax, and then bills., and then £40 per week per kid. Before paying his last penny, all while the woman ends up with about £100 per week more money then a working father!!

the entire system needs reforming, i certainly think no child should live in poverty, however, the woman should only get the high amount if the father isnt paying csa, the blunt of it, for a child, if a dads paying £40 pw csa, where the hell is that going, cause i know for my self let alone a child, clothes + food do NOT = £40 / £80 being halfs paid by each parent) ??

a woman can have a kid, rent free, tax free and be given £180 for nothing. £180 per week to pay bills. must be nice. (and this is before any csa money is added!!!)

Kids arent weapons, and they certainly aint a excuse for being bone idol0, accept the real cost of a kid week to week, (your kid must be 20 stone and have brand new clothes bought for every single day if you spend £80 on them pw!!)

and more then anything, learn to accept, yeah you may get a new man, but he IS NOT THE KIDS DAD!!!!!! if we got a new woman she is by no means the kids MOTHER!!

RANT / OVER

Woman, accept the fact (dont mean to tarnish!) that most of you do not earn your money, simply take from the state and expect to get everthing back cause you couldnt hold a job, while the rest of us are in a similar boat yet have to pay considerably more.

By: Marc Lowley

Marc Lowley — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 23:13:11 +0000

Hi I am a father who is currently In the process of splitting up with my partner. She wants to end our relationship and is claiming that I will only get to see my son who is nearly one once every two weeks and won’t be allowed to see my ten year old step daughter at all even though I’ve raised her as my own since she was three. Where exactly do I stand on having custody of my son or having access to him and what rights do I have regarding seeing my step daughter
Regards
A very worried and upset dad

By: Suzyfloozy

Suzyfloozy — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 19:33:12 +0000

My ex and I split two years ago. We weren’t married and because she was born before Dec 2003 he doesn’t have parental responsibility. We’d both like him to have it as whatever our feelings for each other,he is still and always will be my daughters father. Would we have to pay to get this?? Any advice please would be really useful. Thanks in advance 🙂

By: laura

laura — Wed, 16 May 2012 14:29:08 +0000

I have 2 children aged 21 months and 6 months, my ex partner has never stuck to any arrangement with having the children, in the last 6 months alone it’s been 10 times where he’s meant to have them over night and hasn’t turned up because he’s been out the night before and is still drinking or gonna to his friends instead, I offered for him to have them every weekend that lasted 2 weeks so I said every other weekend that last twice and now I’ve offered one weekend a month is this fair, as I feel am being unreasonable but when a father chooses he’s friends and party’s over his children does he deserve the legal responsibility as I give it till next month and he will let them down again ,

By: admin

admin — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 20:30:02 +0000

Simon

Thank you for your kind words. Fathers are not protected under current UK laws, which is why we need everyone’s support, parents or non-parents.

Too many children are estranged from one of their parents and something needs to be dpone to protect them.

By: Simon

Simon — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 18:27:51 +0000

Hello there, I have split from my partner in the last few months, and am looking for advice on how she lays down the law about when and how I see my 3yr old daughter. she is currently threatening to move hundreds of miles away, and says she will not help me out when it comes to access etc. I just wanted to say that I have read a lot of comments on here from users who are in a far worse situation than me, but you are all an absolute inspiration to me. I at least, do see my daughter, even though my ex is making it difficult for me currently, and threatens worse. I hope that you all continue fighting, stay strong for your sons and daughters and for yourselves, and manage to get the required result. Sending a fathers love to you all. Simon.