This site was setup due to discrimination and injustice for tens of thousands of fathers in the UK.
The UK legal system allows ANY mother to stop contact between a child and it’s father, without any punishment whatsoever. Thousands of children and dads suffer because some mothers think that it is ok to abuse their children by denying them access to their own parent.
It DOES NOT MATTER if you are married or not, ANY mother can stop access to a father and there is NOTHING you can do to FORCE a mother to give you access, UNLESS she agrees to it.
Judges and the legal system will not help you unless you are prepared for a long, emotionally-costly court battle which only serves to fuel emotions and worsen the situation for most children.
99% of fathers do not know this and have to spend thousands of pounds in court trying to gain access to their own children.
Who suffers?
The children, the fathers and society as a whole.
Until family law is changed, OUR children are suffering because archaic laws allow such acts of child abuse.
Fathers should have equal parenting rights, just like a mother and this will give children a happier balance and ultimately help society become a better place.
Other countries have changed laws so that both parents share responsibility, so why in the UK do we still discriminate against fathers?
Please spread the word and use this site as a means to get the word across the internet, so more people are aware of the grave mis-justice being carried out in the UK and other parts of the world.
Our children’s basic human rights are being ignored in countries that claim to have democratic societies with fair and just laws.
Thank you for your support and lets hope and pray laws are changed to protect our innocent children and make families an important part of life.
Parental alienation and fathers rights are major issues that need tackling and they need your support!
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Mission
The aim of Fathers Rights is to help children continue and re-establish relationships with their dads, which may be under attack by parental alienation and hostility between feuding parents.
Any parent that causes harm to their own children (physically or emotionally) or any other child should be punished severely, without exception.
This site is about caring, loving parents that want to give children the best upbringing they can.
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I find it quite incredible that this day and age fathers have no rights and i wouldn’t have believed it if i hadn’t been through it. Briefly divorced 6 years ago my ex has never allowed me regular access. Then she moved away 50 odd miles to be with her partner and never told me. Usual crap mediation, solicitors got nowhere and still no regular access. Obviously i am paying maintenance and have never missed a payment, then this year csa fabricated some arrears on my account and she thinks she is inline for a £1400 payout. I fought it and won got a letter of apology and compensation out of them. So i am quite jubilant she is less so. The result being i unfortunatly saw alot of comments made about me on a social networking website from my kids none of them very pleasant!! and mainly stirred up by my ex. I thought it was odd my kids wouldn’t answer their phones or return my calls.
I am unsure of what to do next, i have been fighting her and the csa for the last 6 years and am very tired of it i now wish i had paid the dam money and still had some sort of relationship with my kids even if it was just see me to see what they can get out of me.
I was due to have them this christmas that isn’t happening now, their choice, as i am apparently useless and they wish they had a proper dad…….life sucks then it gets worse.
Hi,would love some advice . Me and the father seperated when I was 5months pregnant.heonly contacted me 6days before birth as he says the penny finally dropped he was going to be a dad. my daughters 9weeks old I have never stopped contact but out of his choice has only seen her 1hr15minutes altogether.last time he saw her he was 40mins late no explanation amd the time before that he stayed under an hour swearing at me while holding my daught before hsnding her back to me and exiting in a rage.i originally split from him because of his aggression. In the past wjen sje was a couple weeks old he was even tjreatenimg to come by at 10pm!!! It hurts me that theres geniune fathets out there but he doesmt seem to give a dam he has never supported us either. I am thinking of stopping access purely so authorities will get involved if he chooses to so regular comtact can be set up if he wants it as at the moment he is too inconsistant and after me calmy speaking to him his behaviour is unacceptable he doesnt acknowledge it.what are your thoughts? Sorry for typos on my phone
hi my parnter has 2 fantistic kids who he loves very much.he is ment to see kids twice aweek and gets them over nite once every second sat.the problem is his ex who has been poising the kids minds by telling them lies.and now both kids dont want to see there dad he cant afford to go and see a lawyer as he works and only gets the min wage after he pays csa for them is there anything he can do to without him having to go back to see a lawyer.he is so down that im worried that he mite do somthing to him self can anyone give him some advice on wot he can do.he has tryed speaking to his ex but she wont give him the time of day.she has told the kids lies and now they refuse to see there dad.is there anything he can do without him having to go and see a lawyer
To Mum (23rd Oct): Yes, you’re spot on, it’s the kids’ right to have relationships with both parents and their best interests should be paramount. Why is it automatically assumed that the mother is the provider of a child’s “best interests”? Let’s not deny that when a relationship ends the mother will almost always be the primary carer for the kid(s) whether the father likes it or not. This then puts the mother in a position to dictate when and how the father will see his kid(s), if at all. Bearing in mind that the courts will seldomly remove a child from its mother (maybe in cases of abuse, neglect or if the mother is physically or mentally unable), the father is then at the mercy of his ex or the courts to decide contact.
I’m assuming that if a father has done something to warrant not seeing his kids that social services, the cops or midwife/health visitor have been informed and it’s officially noted. Making spurious allegations against any father so that he can’t see his kids is just downright despicable!
Can someone please, please help. I went to collect my kids at their creche at the usual time and – no kids. My wife has gone to court and apparently got an emergency court order to deny me access — out of the blue — I don’t know what’s going on. Has anybody got any advice ? I really need your help . Thank you.
Was there a court order in place granting you access to your kids? Maybe it would be worthwhile trying to talk to your wife and explain your feelings. I know it’s difficult but staying calm and rational is the best option. Definitely get in touch with a lawyer for some legal advice, you need it since she has initiated court proceedings. She must have some reason (whether bulls@*t or not) to have obtained a court order, only by trying to talk to her and get to the heart of the matter will you have any chance. That’s assuming she’s a sensible, rational individual though!
If that doesn’t work then hopefully you can lodge defences against the interdict and have it removed. Good luck.
Hi All
I have been an absent father for 13 yrs and it has been a struggle to get to see my daughter. it has been the hardest thing ive ever done and with no help from the law of this land it was down to me to persist and eventually i have after 12 yrs got good access to my daughter and we have an amazing relationship.
I got married 3 yrs ago to a new woman and had 2 lovely boys and now the whole process starts again? i hope not.
Dont give up your children need you!!!!!!
not all women nor men are are bad parents but the few that are make lives hell. i split from my x 4yrs ago . i pay for children see them every week . yet 7 weeks ago all contact has bin stopped because my csa payment was a month late due to gear box on car breaking . she was informed by me about this . and was ok!!! so i thought.. it was my little girls birthday on 29 oct i searched every were to find her to give her a present …well i still have it… i did come close thou .. i was at her parents evening and on the way home i called at her house the door was open and my daughter was stood in the hall she saw me and waved i waved back . time i got to the door it was shut and no one would answer…that broke my heart and i hate to think how she feels . i also found out that she had changed there names by depoll . a year after . i have got the solicitors involved . but god should it have to be like this ………all i want is to be there for my children the law stinks ………….
I am a father of 2 boys, i have not seen them for 3 years now, because their mother Loretta Tilbrooke wont let them see me, despite going to social services and a long court case i am still fighting to see them, i did feel like giving up, as 3 years is a long time and a lot of lost child/father bonding, but then i thought why should i, hopefully, she will lose out in the end, when the children find out i could not see them because their stupid mother and her disfunctional family kept them away from me, so anyone in the same postion, dont give up, it takes time but hopefully, i, and you will get there in the end, also, keep in touch with their schools, keep checking on their school work and general behaviour, and their general health, its a fathers rite to do so, and no one can stop you,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,From Terry Tilbrooke…………..
Can someone please, please help. I went to collect my kids at their creche at the usual time and – no kids. My wife has gone to court and apparently got an emergency court order to deny me access — out of the blue — I don’t know what’s going on. Has anybody got any advice ? I really need your help . Thank you.
I Split from my wife through no fault of my own , she had affairs and never gave me any attention . I left after she asked me to leave which i guess i can cope with , BUT what she done next is the worst thing ANY women could do to a FATHER and thats to stop the kids from seeing me . Women are always quick enough to preech that they are such great mothers BUT NO good mother would stop the kids from seeing there fathers !!! The feeling a man gets inside from this is unexplainable only fathers out there going through this would know what im talking about and it is SO WRONG that there isnt more we can do about it .
This goverment needs a massive shake up and needs to clean this mess up !!!
For one i dont intend on going quietly , i will voice my issues loudly
I will right as many letters as needed and i will bring this issue up as publicaly as i can .
To all fathers suffering out there … be strong , dont give up hope , and do the same as i !
WE WILL MAKE CHANGE , WE WILL BE HEARD !!! GOOD LUCK ALL !!!
I agree AND disagree with this. I have two children one 8 and one 2. Yes I am a mother so pass me aside if you dont want to listen to a woman, but I am all for fathers rights most definately I always was. My son of 8 years watched me get batted by his father at two years old yet when I finally left him around the time he shook my son, I offered him access non supoervised. I wanted my son to make the choice himself, his father sent me letter saying no i cant see him because I wont have him all the time. Fair enough but tha soon was put aside and he visited him on his own terms, he only wanted him once a week for a half a day. no holidays or anything, i feel sick that he does not want to see him more despite the fact that he bruised me up so bad. my son now hardly goes, he is able to see that his father is not interested and I leave it to him to decide. So the pickle now comes with this, I was raped by a work collegue in april 09 in dec 09 I had his child. Yes, it was my choice to go through with it despite being married my husband (a great father to my son also) and we agreed to continue. Now having being find to be guilty (with massive amounts of evidense including video footage) of the crime and the trauma, he wants his fathers rights to MY Daughter. Where I was open to my sons father having as much access as he pleased, but he rejected the offer to being head on with NOT wanting to give my child to my rapist WHAT would you suggest. Would it do her any good to see her biological father when her daddy loves her to pieces? I would give my husband all rights to her regardless of his blood detachment because he deserves it. Some rights are there for good reasons and some are weak. More rights yes, but for the right and justifiable great fathers. I also believe that in some cases fathers who are great must try get eveidense against there exs who are clearly horrible mothers…they do exisit and its these women who make it difficult for fathers to get access and rights but the good mothers take the stick too.
i have so much admiration for the dads on here i am very lucky with my ex he sees my chilren and keeps in contact with them regularly unfortunetly my partner isn’t so lucky his ex uses there son as a pawn my ex pays maintenance every month and we have just had to stop seeing him as she has said she is stoppng visits and says that he hates us which we no he doesn’t we are finding it really hard as we feel that we have no where to turn as we don’t have the money to go to a solicitor think its a case of just be strong good luck to everyone
i am a grandmother and have not seen my grandson since may6 th this year after my son ex accussed him of dosing her letter box with petrol while she and her newboyfriend and my grandson and her other 2 children were in the house my son was proved be yond doubt to be innocent but she took my grandson and her other children stayed with her friend for 2 months then got allocated a council house as her one stood empty all that time .my son is going through the courts to get access to his son and been given a date to see him in a contact centre dec 3rd as she as said he a risk to his son which he not and also that im not allowed to see him but before she accussed him of the petrol my son was having him every other week for the week and sometimes when he wasent meant to have him the one time he says he cant have him as he had been out drinking and felt it wasent responcibleto have him she accusses himof that and my son not seen his son since .she has lied to anyone that will listen to her police ,council,benifit people ,she was the one cheating on my son but he been made out to be the crimanal and the bloke she with his father was convicted of giving exstacy pill to 14 year old girl who died so my son not allowed tosee his son but the likes of this man and his son can where is the justice x
To the person who stated ‘I have the right to a family life’ and others who state ‘I have the right to see my child’…………No, it is the other way around. The child has the right to see the parents. Therefore, if there is any fear that contact is going to have a negative effect on children, then contact should be stopped. Over the age of 12, children can make their own decision and we must listen to them. Some fathers throw this back at the mother by believing that they are the ones stopping contact but in my case, my children do not want to see their dad as he has behaved very irresponsibly. I am sure he now believes that I am stopping them whereas, I have encouraged them to make contact but they are too frightened to do this. In all cases we need to step back and think ‘am i acting in the best interest of the child?’
My daughter left her husband in January due to violence. He was arrested and kept in the cells for 24 hours then let out on a caution .
I didn’t no until then he had hit her before ,even when she was pregnant .
.He hit my daughter and put his hands round her throat with there 8 week baby in her arms. The baby was admitted to hospital for 24 hours for observation .Her husband is from Bangladesh and has threatened to take the baby there so my daughter will never see her again. He wants her brought up by his family.( Not the baby’s mum )
He has not seen his daughter since January.We have been to court 6 times up to now ,We go again in a few weeks time . The final hearing is some time next year for 3 days.
Our local courts say they don’t no how to deal with it,Its now.its that serious it has gone to crown court last week for more direction.
My daughter is not opposed to her husband ( soon to be x ) seeing the baby ,if the courts can guarantee supervised assess .But they say a cafcass centre here is not secure ,and that he could just walk out with the baby ,and the staff could not get her back of him.only the police can do that.
The orders my daughter has got is a non molestation order out for her.That’s now going to be renewed for another year.And for the baby she’s got a no contact order,prohibited steps order, residency order,and a passport order
I would be pleased if any one has any comments ,or if any one has gone through anything like this please .Its been such a bad year for us and made us all ill.
If any one would like to get intouch with me .englishrose1920@aol.com
I think we should all contact Paul and start something rather than feeling helpless and not supported. I e-mailed you Paul and willing to take part in your campaign.
Thanks
Hi, im a mum of 4 children 2 from a previous marriage and 2 a son 19 mths and daughter 3 1/2 from my ex. I do believe that decent fathers who want to see their children and take their roles as a parent seriously should have better support and a fair hearing with regards to gaining access to their children. I also understand there are alot of great dads out there… SAYING THAT it has to be RECOGNISED that there are a lot of dads that aren’t and WE SHOULD NOT LET THEM FALL THROUGH THE NET.
I am all for fairness and equality but not all cases are the same and even though everyone has their story to tell …. it has to be put into context and that not all dads or even mums that are going through this deserve the right to see their children if it puts their childrens emotional well being etc at stake.
I have tried for the past 3 1/2 years to get my ex to look at his behaviour and take his parental responsibilities seriously. This is very complex but to put it briefly…He has never supported me with our two children since they were born even giving me a good hiding when i was 9 months pregnant with our son. Instead his friends, drugs and alcohol have been his main priority. We finally split up a year and a half ago. Still i believed that the children should have a relationship with their dad and let him see them . He saw them for only 2 hours initially 3 x a week at the house and never asked to see them for any longer. He never seemed to know what to do with them and even seemed bored.
He met a new partner then started taking the children to his place, he then introduced her to the children within 5 weeks of meeting her without even discussing this with me beforehand. We had a verbal agreement that we would not introduce new people to the children for at least 6 months if not longer. The new gf moved in with him within 6 weeks of them meeting, again i was not informed of this until recently. I asked to meet with her as the children are so young , but he refused. He then started to demand that he wanted the children for longer and demanded overnight stays even though he has never ever even put them to bed or been interested before. I refused due to various reasons. He has made me out to be a psycho to all his new friends who seem to be either drug users or heavy drinkers (i was informed of this recently by a third party).
We have attended mediation 3x and it has broken down each time as he did not stick to the agreed arrangements . I even agreed 4 hour visits to give him a chance to prove himself, he either came back a few hours late or a few hours early or wanted to change the days. His moods were up and down all the time and he could be very volatile even in front of the children if he didnt get his own way. His gf and him split up after 5 months and he was arrested for abh towards her which got dropped.
He then went on to a new gf who he also introduced to the children. My daughter is still talking about the first gf and was very upset when they split up. He tells my daughter to tell me she wants to stay over at his or that she doesnt want to come home…He does not pay me a penny but seems to have money for himself his drugs , alcohol and seems to be able to run 2 vehicles even though he is on benefits…. I was still providing him with basics that the children needed such as car seats, cups , plates, change of clothes etc … .
His ex has recently got in touch and informed me that he was smoking drugs whilst she was looking after the children and that he was also dealing amongst other things. I informed S/S but they did nothing !….NOW after giving him so many chances i have stopped contact as i feel he is emotionally abusing our children and potentially putting them at risk.
The children have been so settled and so much happier since not seeing him, my daughter has not asked to see her dad once in the 5 weeks i stopped contact. I feel very anxious as he is now taking me to court in the next few weeks for access….this is all about winning for him not about the childrens welfare as he is unable to put them before his own needs….I have been told that it would not be worth asking for supervised contact as he has already had them on his own and nothing has happened to them and that he will probably be allowed access on his own…i am scared for my children and can only hope the court make the right decisions for the sake of the children they are so precious and deserve better.
My 2 yr olds daughters alcoholic father abandoned his daughter -I was then shocked when the father, who did not attend the access offered, filed with court for a court order. I was appauled to discover in court that the judge intended to order unsupervised access ignoring entirely my alledged safety issues! Surely judges have a duty to consider child safety when making an order. Eventually my concerns were heard. With hair strand evidence of extensive & chronic alcoholism a court order is agreed (+with input from social workers) child access going forwards is formalised and safe. A) There are many many mothers who simply want the best interests of their children ie safe graduated and committed parental access. It only takes one unreasonable (or intent upon intimidation parent) for a case to appear in court. B) Wrongful assumptions by judges (and failing to read presented evidence police files, doctors reports etc) gives the litigators licence to intimidate at the expense of childrens safety. Our judiciary needs to ensure that good fathers be given access and that due diligence is followed where there is suspicion of abuse and/or any concerns of child safety.
I have a story that so many normal people in society… friends included that if I start telling them details of my situation,.. I can see it in their faces that they can’t believe that can actually happen… your such a great dad, why would a mother stop you seeing your daughter… well I’m pretty sure that every guy on this site and 1000′s more have the same stories… I am not going to even begin to tell my story because I would be writing it for at least 5 days… and even then I would remember another situation of pure emotional evil. I am currently in the court process and I am amazed at how much it favours the mother… I have evidence that she has committed pergury, is committing benefit fraud and the list is again, endless.. but contact is continuing to be reduced because of false allegations that I can also prove are false but the court will not hear it.. Cafcass are now making a report which is great, but I suspect the balance will again be seriously towards the mother,.. why does society assume that the mother is best suited to care for a child… ? I want to campaign… I want to start rallying men together to start fighting for our rights… we do not live in a society of equality… in todays society do you think that this would be acceptable for women to endure,,,.. hell no… please contact me at : pgb@anotherdesigncompany.co.uk to discuss how we can move forward together to right this very terrible wrong. My daughter is 3 and half and the best years of her life have been stolen from me… Please… please only contact me if you are genuinely being wronged… I do understand that there will be bad dads and may deserve to prove themselves… but seriously there are so many of us… lets meet up… lets work together.
Thank you all for your responds. Some women do not really understand that they are abusing children emotionally by not letting fathers see their own children. This is really sad and unfair.
I have a solicitor but can not stop my ex making allegations. Now she is taking it further and saying I touched my sons willy,how sick can a person be? I was changing his nappy putting cream and of course like any other parent I would have to touch there but not for a flippin pleasure it wa sto care for my son…….
Social services carrying out section 47 although police said they will not take any action as my son(4yrs old) did not disclose anything of a sexual nature.
Once social services complete the core assessment(35working days) then I will apply for interim contact order then fact finding hearing will take place etc etc.
OVER ALL SYSTEM AND LAW IS AGAINST MEN-FATHERS
THIS IS NOT FAIR AND AGAINST HUMAN RIGHTS
UK COURTS TAKE YEARS TO SOLVE A PROBLEM AND DISREGARDING CHILDRENS NEEDS
WHY CAN WE NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT THIS??????
can anyone answer me this….my ex has just taken my son out ov the country to egypt…she has a lover there which is why she left me….( thx facebook)….his surname is same as mine on birth certificate…can she do this without tellin me….?
e-father.. a friend of mine is in a very similar position are i am currently trying to find some sort of advice to help him regain access. i shall keep you updated in anything i find, and would you be able to do the same?
Dear All,
I have a very similar story to everyone on here, the mother of my 7 year old daughter has suddenly stopped contact amid allegations that I have been coaching her to hate her mother. She cannot control our daughter so I have taken the blame. I have requested mediation on 2 occassions both of which have been rejected. The pain I am feeling and not being able to see my daughter is unbearable. I am now in the process of going through court to put contact back in place.
I cannot and will not allow this to continue, all I am asking for is a fair trial, nobody from social services has contacted me and carried out an investigation, which I would be happy to assist with as I have nothing to hide from them. I have an excellent relationship my daughter she is my world, but now I fear what poison her Mum is telling her about why i’m no longer seeing her. The system is a disgrace.
I have now made this a personal crusade to have the law changed. My MP is in the process of writing to the Department for Justice to see what can be done, my local paper has also agreed to write a piece about me in the paper. I beg all of you to do the same. We cannot allow this to continue. I am also going to start a campaign to get the law changed, all of you who read and post I need your suppport. Please contact me here
@E-father – can’t really give you any advise, only empathy. I have been through all of the same, including being arrested and thrown in prison. My wife abducted three of our four children from our home in France, took them to England, made out that she was prepared to engage in constructive discussion while preparing a legal case against me. Six years later, she has successfully persuaded CAFCASS, Kent social services, the Kent Police and the courts that I pose a serious physical and emotional risk to her and the children to the extent that she now has seven injunctions against me preventing me from having any contact whatsoever with my children.
This has been done EVEN THOUGH the three of our children in her care have their own solicitors and have made it clear that they want contact, that they don’t agree with their mother’s allegations, and EVEN THOUGH a French court has stripped her of her parental responsibility in respect of our fourth (eldest) child who lives with me, has “special needs” but is considered to have been very competently brought up by me as a single parent. Since the summer, my wife has cut all communications between this boy and his siblings. All of this has happened with Social Services looking on and doing nothing.
@Barry – six years ago, I surfed the net and thought “these stories can’t be true, there must be a lot of internet bias here.” That led me to give my wife and the British family justice system the benefit of the doubt, only to find out that it is every bit as bad as described. Once one parent has the upper hand, everything the other parent does gets twisted to fit the decision already handed down by the court. Even the factual evidence I have provided to counteract vague allegations made by my wife has been described as obsessive on my part and dismissed. What googlybear describes is exactly the same as what happened with me and my children – except that the CAFCASS officer prepared the report without ever seeing me. Ever. Ditto for Social Services who reported to the court “I have full assessed the father’s parenting capacity …” – without ever seeing me with my children.
I don’t believe solicitors or the courts have any place in parent & children disputes, but if you’re facing a break-up in the UK, get a good solicitor at the earliest opportunity.
Hi, reading some of the other father’s plights that cannot see their children, I would like to highlight my situation. OBVIOUSLY THIS PROBLEM IS MAJOR & STILL UNACCEPTABLY INCREASING. I have & always will be a great dad to my 2 children, a 3 & a 2 year old. I have spent almost every day with them since they were born, been a stay @ home father, might be my biased opinion but I have done more than the mother. I have also had to bring up my children whilst my partner had/maybe still has post natal depression. My children are very bright, healthy & funny. Now the relationship has broken down & the mother will not let me have any access out of spite. She will not even let me speak to them on the phone. I have seen a solicitor & I am going through the familiar process. I may echo others, but the fact a kids 1st year’s are the most important is great in theory, but hindered in practice. Obviously I am adding my voice, but the system is far from fit for purpose. There is no consideration for the children or father’s well being, both physical & mental. All this talk @ Broken Britain/single parents & the fact that a mother has the ultimate say is obviously a farce/imbalance. I think that some sort of legal arbitrator etc should be the 1st step & if the partner does not have reasonable grounds etc to object, the father should be given minimal short term access at least & the court system used for long term access. I know that if I go banging the door it will only put a smile on her face/result in her phoning the police saying I am a nutter. I am relatively young & new to this, but I have to write as my story might be one more hole too much in the dam for the little boy to plug with his finger.
I totally agree that fathers should be a major part of their child or childrens life, I am a mum myself, and I want to ensure my daughter has contact with her dad, and enjoy quality time with him.
However, what do you do when your ex partner is of a different religion to you, and you have found out his family and him have been making your daughter go to mosque, telling her shes naughty if she doesnt pray, his brother (my daughters uncle) tells her God will punish her if she doesnt. Am I doing the right thing by allowing her to be with him so much? or am I not doing the right thing? I’ve spoke to him, but he thinks hes doing nothing wrong, as it is his religion, I jsut feel she has had enough to contend with, a child should be allowed to be a child. If he was just a daddy, wanting to see his daughter, as you guys, I wouldnt mind, but he just wants her to carry on the religion. So, sometimes, us mums dont know what to do either!!
Hi every one
I have two children a little boy who is two and a little girl who is eight now all though I am not her biological father I have brought her up and have loved her as my own now have have just split up with there mum and she tells me I can only have my children for one two hour tea time a week and alternate weekends I have seen my kids every day when we was together and want to continue seeing them as much as possible. My worry is what effect this is having on my children as they love spending time with there dad. These rights need to change for us loving fathers I don’t think it’s two much to ask to be able to love your children and be in there lives to be there for them growing up I feel I am missing out on so much and they are two. Now in case your wondering she left me and iv never been abusive or aggressive towards her . All I want is to see my children and she plays god with them to hurt me how can this be right. All situation are different for every one of us so how can law be that we are just over looked. For the children’s and dads sake every where these laws need to changed if not for the dads do it for the children as it is such a shame to have a loving dad and be denied all his love and time.
I definetly think as a mother myself fathers should have the same rights, i would never stop my son from seeing his dad as a parent its the right thing to do and very beneficial to the childs wellbeing
I couldn’t agree more! My son is nearly and I have done nothin but nag my ex to see his son, he’s done nothing but mess him around and abuse all the chances I have given him against my better judgement.
My ex left my son out in the street where I live 6 weeks before last Christmas (2010) and has had no access even though it’s never been stopped.
My sons well being and happiness is all I live for, he didn’t speak for 2 weeks after this experience and has been very withdrawn since.
My ex out of the blue has decided to take me to court for access, problem is now…..fathers rights! Total strangers are getting to decide what’s best for my son, most men love their children and are sadly stopped by their nasty ex wives or gfs but it’s the men like my ex that make it bad for all you other men out there that actually want to be good dads. I hate women that use their kids as weapons and I hate men that have kids but let them down or just can’t be bothered!!
E-Father
Keep a very detailed diary and have a third party with you for the time being. it really helps and stops the accusations woman can be the most evil things to walk the planet and i know it may not seem like it at the moment but it will get better, good luck and stay strong.
Hi All
Anyone has any suggestions,advise or ideas in regards to my enquiry on September 27, 2011 at 13:10
Thank you
E-Father
After reading all these comments i am appalled that the law has not yet changed towards helping fathers retain a relationship with there children.I my self am a mum of 4 children 3 by a previouse relationship and my childrens happiness is the most important thing to me. My children live 300 miles away from there father we had to move because of my husbands work and in the current climate we could do no other as we have 4 children to support at home and another 2 from my husbands previouse marriage.As i did not have my father in my life growing up due to his relationship with my mother breaking down when i was 3 and me not being able to see him untill i was an age where i made it impossible for my mum not to let me see him i hold alot of recentment towards her as i missed out on my fathers life as he did mine .As i became a mother my self i could not understand why any mother would deny there child access to there other parent unless of course he was an abbusive man or a sexual predator, that is why i travel 300 miles every other weekend so my children get to see there father i do not get any financial support off him as he is in no position to help out, but he does contribute in alot of other ways. However there is a twist in my tale my husbands ex wife refuses to let him see his twin boys although he pays his maintenance every month. We are counting the days when they become of age when they will want answers to there questions just as i did. Untill then he is helpless we can not afford long drawn out court battles and she is not a person who you can mediate with so what do we do they have missed out on so much and do not even know they have a younger sibling the only contact my husband has is a phone call when the maintenance has been a few days late. All xmas and birthday cards have been returned so he stopped sending them. The law needs changing no woman has the right to play god with her children good luck guys not all women are evil…..
It’s all so wrong, the way we fathers are treated is sickening,
When will it ever change?
Why is this country treating men as second class citizen and make it look like Fathers are sperms givers to their baby/ children mothers and yet still the systems encourage single mothers with benefits and right to decide how and when to spend time your biological sons.
Besides, the government admitted the children from broken homes and failing children. This culture of Englishness is sicken and depriving children of their Family and human rights. This culture is less acceptable in Germany family law. Men and Dad like co counterpart in German fought for the changes in Law to give fathers equal rights. Let us go for it and help change the injustices and secrecy in our family court
Hi,
I have been searching for information on behalf of my partner who recently split up with his ex girlfriend with whom he has 2 small children with. His ex partner is very bitter and abuses my partner constantly either via text or phone, this has become an every day occurrence now and to add to this, she keeps changing the rules in regards to his access to his children.
At first it was agreed between them that he would see the children every Monday & Wednesday for a few hours and every third weekend of the month for the whole weekend, since these arrangements have been put in place – she has change her mind almost every time and made it unbelievably difficult for my partner to see his children. She also abuses me most days via text or phone.
My partner and I are at our wits end and really don’t know what we can do to stop this, all we want is for my partner to spend the time with his children he deserves but is constantly denied. Does she have the right to keep doing this? Would going to a Solicitor or the Citizens Advice Bureau help? We are both very stressed out and worried and any help anyone could offer would be very greatly appreciated.
Thank you
i dont know where to start or what to say , i have been separeated for 2 years , everything was fine till my ex found out i am in a relationship. she informed me that i am not allowed to see my 5 years old boy. i can not imagine living without seeing him at weekend. i deep know if the law go on her favoure and i dont get justice ill set her on fire. law is so stupid in uk and its on the mum s favoure. lets not suffer on silence . lets fight this till its done 50%50 .
Hi All
Good comments and stories here but I dont know if anyone can advise me.
I have been seperated from my wife since 2011 and could see my son until march 2011 in her house, I even had the keys until she heard me having a relationship with another woman.That is when she became evil. She made many false allegations. She took injunction and prohibited steps order as she claims that I abused her and may kidnap my son although I never abused her nor wanted to kidnap my son. Been to court and court keeps dealying the case. Since March 2011 I have seen my son in July for 2 hours at a supervised contact centre. After the contact Ex told her solicitor that she doesnt want to continue with the contact as she claims that I harmed my son although there was no incident at the contact centre.(Contact was agreed between 2 solicitors) She keeps changing her statements and last thing now she claims that I touched my son’s genital and contacted social services.
I received a call from the Police they are investigating. My work place is aware now as I work with families and children so I may be suspended. She also got me arrested in May 2011 with false allegations again for theratening to kill her although I was released same day due to not enough evidence. I dont know how to stop her making further allegatiosn as they are all false. I do not know how to see my son, I have a solicitor but I feel like she is just sucking my money. I really need help to stop this mad woman ruining my life and my son’s life as I believe she is also brainwashing him which is also an emotional abuse.
PLEASE HELP THANK YOU
Its official… CAFCASS are prejudiced
I have just received the section 7 report from CAFCASS and all the way through it continually mentions that I am not a risk to my daughter. That my daughter would benefit from being with her father. That her mother has stated she does not feel Emma would be in any danger being in my presence.
In fact pretty much all the way through the report, its good comments about myself and my son being part of my daughters life. How both my children would benefit from spending a lot of time together.
Then right at the end of the report, it changes.
The main concern is handover. Mother feels that she may be intimidated at handovers. Therefore CAFCASS recommend residence goes to the mother, and contact should stay as it is (2.5hrs in a contact centre)
Now if thats not bias, I do not know what is.
No mention of “lets address the handover problems” or “lets suggest seeking mediation”, or even “well handover maybe a problem, but as long as its independent, contact could increase”!
Pathetic!
i honestly cant believe this is how it works,im in the proccess of separation thankfully my partner is agreeing to 50/50 access! im was just looking out of interest because what is said at the start and what actually happens are 2 different things! now im not saying that all fathers or mothers for that fact should be aloud to care for there children! but surely anyone fighting to see there child shows enough dedication them to be allowed this (right) and if there are mothers out there who dont allow this then they should be the ones who do without because lets be honest, they are not caring for there childs needs or feeling or stability whenever or not they like it kids need there father! it makes me wonder how many of these people deny access but yet still expect a maintenence cheque through the door! this makes me sick that we live in a country where father are denied access to there children with no rights whatsoever! and good luck to fathers who are not as lucky as myself!
Hi I am a working man who can not afford a solictor and my ex partener knows this and she is exploiting the fack that she can use my son as a weapon and stop me seeing him and it hurts me as he has prada wille.
can some one please help me with a way of getting access where its is written down in black and wite please
Hello everyone my name is Mark, i have a 17 month old son i fought for 8 months in court on legal aid and currently have my son for 3 days a week from 10am to 6pm which is ‘a good amount of time’ so my solicitor says,i agree equal rights and equal parenting it makes me sick in this day and age when an ex partner gets a new bloke and he has more rights and time with my son than his own father something needs to be done its my right and my sons right to have a family life together. Good luck everyone keep up the fight things are changing slowly i also found that Cafcass are also very biased towards the mother.
i just cant beleave the law right ni!!! it really needs to be changed i can not get to see my wee girl because her mum wont let me even no ive been to court and have a court order. the mum can break that order and nothing happens to her!! how is that right???? if i take my wee girl and dont let her mum see her wot would happen??? i no i would be put in jail!!!!!!!! so how can the mother do that to me and nothing happen even no she breaking the law. it is a joke and i cant beleave it stands the people runing the country need to take a good hard look at them selfs use are a joke!!!!!!!!
im a father to which i have two children. in 2 years of fighting i have seen my kids for 33 hours. but now im thinking of going to the higher court. as i think this is breaching my human right to a family life. i do not understand why the courts stop ower children from seeing there dads.
i agree with your site and help for fathers , this society is a joke maybe if this happened to the judges who made this stupid law (and who obviously have no children) they would understand how damaging this is to children fought for 9 months to gain access to be told today that she the children s mother is stopping contact this is child abuse yet nobody seems to care about the fathers and least of all the children they are the ones that suffer your dangerous the politicians and judges that make these laws broken Britain well this is the problem with this country , I have served the crown for years your country is a joke proud to be British every other country have changed your laws except us WHY? is it because they know the country would almost improve overnight whose with me to take this to downing street FIX BROKEN BRITAIN AND MAKE EQUAL RIGHTS FOR FATHERS THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR SITE KIND REGARDS
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My M8 just had his kids taken today and im tryin to research his rights but he has criminal convictions an has jus been let out on tag,(How does this benifit her?) also she is not telling him were she is an she has the wee ones she is surrposdly with the social,a s its still all so early what could my mate do to benifit his cause straight away. Any with nolige in this area email me asap very improtant even ring me 07956488079
i am a father who has 2 boys and has had them taken away from me ; i kept them over the weekend and was told of my solicter to give them back or i was in big trouble if i did;t .now they are back with there mam i will probely not see them for a few weeks or even months . why as a dad have you no rights the law is a laugh when it involves kids.i also have a 12 year old daughter whos mam stoped me seeing her as i told her some home truths ,my solicter told me i was wrong to do that ,was it better comming from me or second hand . her and the ex wife are now best of freinds and are both ganging up on me and useing the kids as pawns ,
Hello my name is Jorden freeman my little girl is 11 Months old
me and the mother are not Married and im on the birth Certificate
Please help I’m a father of a beautiful girl which I cant see
The mother tells me its because I have epilepsy which I do but
That don’t stop me from being a dad this is a long story and I’m trying to
Keep it short as I can she is half Greek and has gone to Greece with
My daughter for 2 weeks I had to get a order from court because I
didn’t trust her to come back I haven’t got a job currently so
I get free legal advise, advise being the operative word here but I cant help thinking its rubbish sorry but its true
Still waiting for contact order to be set up so I can see my daughter
On a regular basis but my solicitor say I have to wait for funding which is a
Long process I just feel so bloody helpless what should I do
Ill be so grateful for any help or advise
Kind regards Jorden
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