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For 12 days every fortnight I am a hard-working, broken-hearted person and I cannot find anything in the UK to make me happy.
For the two days every fortnight that I get to spend with my daughter, I am a happy, proud and confident person, a total contrast to my days without her.
Yesterday I gazed out the window watching fireworks and was really missing my angel but I cannot call her, she doesn’t call me and knowing she is only a mile away hurts like hell.
My ex has hurt me for years on end and she seems relentless in erasing me from our daughter’s life and I am reduced to nothing more than a broken-hearted dad that battles on for justice in the courts, so that someone will make my ex encourage our daughter to see me as an equal parent and let me be a part of her life, good times and bad.
I have alot to give and alot to teach her but the only people she gets to see is her mothers’ friends and family, not a true representation of her whole family, which to me is abuse and falls under the title of parental alienation. This is the act of one parent trying to stop meaningful contact with the other parent.
It is time to stand up and make family laws fairer to stop child abuse being carried out and to promote shared parenting in the family courts so broken Britain can start to be repaired for the good of our communities.
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Dolly
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Intelligence and sipmliicty – easy to understand how you think.
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chris knox
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your site is excellent thank you for all those that have set this up ,, The country however is a total joke sort this one out government , let fathers be a equal part in the upbringing of there children punish those that parent alianate , Broken Britain well dam fix it by changing the laws for fathers they would see a massive change , all fathers outh there like myself who are fighting for the welfare of there children Never NEVER QUIT NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES OUR CHILDREN WILL LEARN THE TRUTH
thank you again for this site whos prepared to go to parliment with me .
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Debbie Spencer
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I am so saddened by all of your stories, my son is going through a court battle to get proper visiting rights to his son and I am so disgusted with any woman that can put her child through this. A child has a right to have the love from both parents and their respective families, I am also not allowed to see my two year old grandson and am not entitled to a reason why. I fought with my ex husband so that he would see his children and can honestly say I would never have dreamed of denying him his right to see his kids even though he had been abusive towards me. I love all four of my grand children and am at a loss as to what I can do to see my little grandson. I love my son so much but I am not blinded to his faults, he does not deserve the treatment handed out by his ex or the courts and cafcass.My son has lost everything, his job, his home and most importantly the right to see his son simply because his ex girlfriend does not want him in her life anymore. As the saying goes; The law is an ass.
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mark turner
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I split from my wife nearly 2 years ago lost everthing house kids even the pets didn’t mind getting rid of mother in law as she is a control freak . i have taken her to court 6 times to get to c my kids but when i get something she says i did not agree with court order strange that so i wonder who was agreeing when the judge asked her .
Today she was seen hiding from me in solicitors door way with a friend who was seen checking to c if i had moved away . so she is up to something . BUT WHY USE KIDS AS A WEAPON. oh sorry forgot bitch mode.
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Scott
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I read Claires reply and that was refreshing to hear. My belief is that if you were married and planned the child(ren) and you split up then as long as the father is a hands on dad and a good dad etc and you all are local to your exes family as well as your own then the mother SHOULD NOT be avle to relocate simply because they meet another man. If they do then leave the kids with the dad and his/her family as they had planned. My ex wife is relocating an hour away to a town where he has bought a house close to his works and nearer to his unplanned 3 year old son. No other family live there. Hers and mine live with 10 min radius. We have all lived here all our lives yet her moving has made it complicated for me. In the last 3 yrs I have maintained a loving relationship with my daughter. I have always seen her regularly and love taking her to nursery and picking her up. We dressed up as Pirates for the local carnival and her school won first prize and we both were photographed in the local gazette. I want whats best for my daughter in terms of bringing her up with good manners and that she lives a healthy life. I want what the mum wants. Shes my little girl just as she is hers. It didn’t work out between us but thats not our daughters fault. I work shifts and that enabled me to take her to school etc but now I have to travel an hour away to pick her up and sometimes meet halfway in the services and on the odd occasion pick her up from nursery at 1pm take her around the town for the afternoon and then tea then drop her back. Its winter!! She is only 4 for heavens sake! She used to come over to her 2nd home where it is nice and cosy and she has her own room. Safe and cosy at this time of year. Her mum dictates to me. She thinks I confuse her when I put her bed next to mine and let her sfall asleep in mine and then I put her in hers when shes asleep. Shes fine she sleeps well shes with her daddy! We have hugged and kissed like parents do. The attention and love they need from both parents. If I was an absent father then there would be no problem. For the benefit of the child and there growth equal input from both parents living locally is beneficial. The experts say and I agree.
I think shes trying to make it harder for me. But I will ALWAYS be there for my little girl. Someday I hope she will come live with me.
I do believe she is bitter still but we separated 3.5 yrs ago and she has been with her b/f 2 yrs. Some women use there kids to get back at you. They will take your maintenance but they wish you would vanish!
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Anthony
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The only thing that is keeping me with my girlfriend now is our daughter. I love my little girl so much and know that in this country UK law sides with the woman. I have said to my girlfriend i would happily leave if i would be given 50/50 custody, but she will not do this: claiming the usual SHE is my child, i gave birth to her speech!!
Irrelevant
I now have to live in this lie of a relationship – dont fear the child is still being brought up in a happy environment in fact i have never seen such a happy child (yes i’m sure we all say that). I look forward so much to coming home from work just to see my little girl. It would kill me not being able to do that everyday.
UK system is pathetically behind.
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Thank you for your comment and your support.
I’m sorry to hear your situation but unfortunately it is frighteningly common. Any support or contribution to the site you can give will be greatly appreciated.
To be part of any legal protests you can email justice@fathers-rights.co.uk with your region in the uk.
Thank you
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M
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I have just found your blog, read significant amounts of it and to say that your story and experience resonate with me greatly would be somewhat of an understatement. Since splitting with my Ex we have operated a shared parenting arrangement on a 50/50 basis for 13 months. It has gone mostly without issue but certain difficulties led to an application to the court. At our first directions hearing the judge presiding over the case suggested that this was a kid gloves situation as we were so close to long term agreement, a month passed and we had another directions hearing this time with a different judge who, within 5 minutes of not really being interested in the case, deeply upset my child and all but destroyed my life. I was given 2 hours at a contact centre once a week, after caring for my daughter for half her time for over a year. My daughter has gone from having two homes to having one and only seeing me when ordered. I have changed everything to cater for her, my working hours and practices, I have had to turn away business on the basis of having a child that I want to care for who loves living with me yet none of this made any difference whatsoever. A judgement passed without consideration has enabled my ex to weaponise our daughter and is now actively alienating me. We are back in court again soon, for reasons that aren’t overly clear but what is clear is that the British Family Court system is so alarmingly arbitrary and adversarial as to ensure that the child loses in every single instance. The day before we went to court we had agreed to place our differences aside for the sake of our daughter and in the blink of an eye a disconnected public servant destroyed any chance we may have had of doing this, made a child deeply unhappy and created yet another father who only wants to be part of his child’s life. I’d like to offer my support to your case and I’d like to be part of anything which changes the premise for family cases to follow the Australian model. Our system is patently patently wrong and it must change because the more children that go through it, the more children that will be hurt.
Best,
M
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I just read this and sympathize a lot. I am in Canada, and have an ex that took my daughter away at age 3, and even supervised visitations faded out to nothing by age 7. I missed 12 full years of my daughter’s life after that, no amount of court changed that. What I did get was child support increases. Skip to now: Thanx to events in January in which my partner at the time set in motion, I have a healthy relationship with my daughter, now age 20. But get this. Her mother is attempting to get A RETROACTIVE INCREASE IN CHILD SUPPORT, for the child she never even allowed phone contact, or even a mailing address. And I actually have to go back to court again to block this attempt. The courts really do have a long way to go to step into the 21st century, be it here or in Europe, or anywhere for that matter. I wish you all the best in your battle. All we do is hope for the best, and worst case, your daughter will be old enough to make her own choices, just as mine did.
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Claire
Thank you, we need more good women like you to help us make changes to the law for the best interest of our children.
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Richard
I am saddened by your story. I would strongly advise you to get a professional McKenzie friend via http://www.FNF.org.uk and if you need a recommendation just ask and I will give you contact details for your local contact.
Keep up your battle and let’s get these laws changed!
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OMG, I have just read “I Just Want To Be A Good Dad” and I can only empathise with you. I am in a nasty court battle with my ex over our 2 girls who are 11 & 8. Since we split I had a court order allowing 1 visit a month, but this never happened every month and my solicitor advised me not to peruse it as we were trying to settle the divorce. I now have a different solicitor after losing everything:(
My ex then stopped all contact, visits, letters & phone calls & stopped mine and her own parents seeing the kids. She had another child with the man she left me for & has since left him & is marrying another man. I have no idea where my children are living as she keeps moving and the kids have an unsettled life with differing men around. I have been to court again to gain access to my girls, but my ex is now accusing me of all sorts of abuse to stop me seeing them, even her own mother wrote to the court supporting me and the girls being re-united. My father died and she wouldn’t even let the girls say goodbye to their grandad or to visit their grandmother to comfort her. I am now 3 years on from our split and I still do not see my girls, I was advised not to approach them by my solicitor as the ex would use it against me in court, so I have to be very patient. The last time I saw them was for fathers day in June, thats a total of 3 times this year!. I have thought about giving up the fight many times as it is emotionally draining, but as most fathers on here know the love of your children is worth the effort. I have since been to court and I am allowed one phone call per week until CAFCASS reports are completed and the judge makes his decision, this wont be until 2011. I am still living in hope that I will get to see my beautiful girls again and to give them the cuddles that they deserve.
It does seem that family courts in this country are very sexist and biased towards women and I think this is a reason that some men give up fighting. My advise is to keep going no matter what is thrown at you as the truth will come out in the end, its taken 3 years for me. My ex’s family & friends, even the man she had a child with are backing me after realising what a pathological liar my ex is. So dont give up, its worth it just to see your kids happy.
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claire
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i thinkevery dad dserves the chanced to be a parent,i gave birth to my daughter but y does that make me the better parent she is in fact a daddies girl i could never ever take her away from her dad a it would emotionally destroy her,she is 2 and idolises her daddy when she hears the car pull up she sits on the floor shouting for him she sees him first thing in morn we ring him thru day when he is at wrk for her to talk to him,i would say out the two he has the strongest bond so does that make him the better parent………….i believe its a childs choice and should not automatically be the mums……this coming from a mum herself. i think get rid of the csa and legal aid and c how quik mums return contact to dads good luck all of u guys and keep strong
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Thanks Chris, I will never give up, us dads must fight against these evil mothers that think they are agids.
Children deserve the live and support of both parents and I won’t stop until this is achieved!
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Gary thank you for your comment and I too wish you every success with your battle, which you must fight for the sake of your child.
Keep up the support
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Claire I appreciate your comments, thank you
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not every woman is as bad as ur ex and i really feel for u,my fella is going thru the same but his ex has stopped contact completely because she can despite a court order being in place,keep strong,go to her school keep involved that way at least she will know u care x
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Gary
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Hi mate. I can sympathsise with you. I have a five year old girl named Niamh with my ex-wife, I haven’t seen her for two half years despite going through courts the two years prior to that. My ex is more than happy to take the CSA cash every month and reported me for changing my job recently, but not so happy for me to have contact with our daughter.
I have another daughter now with my wife and I am a great dad for her, it pains me though to know that Niamh is missing out on a full family – a dad, sister, my wife, grand parents, an aunt, cousins.
The only advice I can give is to stick with it, as I am sure you will. It is difficult just now and the reality is that it will probably get worse before it gets better. I do wish you the very best of luck and I hope that you have more success than I have.
Maybe one day fathers rights will mean something and carry more weight.
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CHRIS
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I understand completely how you feel, my ex is the same with my son & daughter. She didn’t even let me phone my son on his 8th birthday. But I will never give up on my kids. For the sake of your daughter, don’t give up, she needs you.
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Colin thankyou for your support.
I can never stop because my daughter is my everything and hopefully one day when her mother stops being such a controlling influence, she will appreciate my hard work.
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Mate i feel for you , I read your story and it so reminds me of myself and my situation at the minute. I have no advice for you other than keep trying and dont give up hope , thats what ive done !
Hold your head up and carry on with the courts and hopefully fathers will get some sort of justice one day .