Counselling Service Now Available to Real Fathers For Justice Members

Real Fathers For Justice (http://www.realfathersforjustice.org) are pleased to now be able to offer free counselling sessions to subscribing members.

In the last 12 months we have been contacted many times by suicidal parents, sadly we know of several who have gone on to take their own life, mainly due to contact denial and prolonged family court cases where no progress is being made.

This was highlighted recently by our tribute to loving father Paul Pegram >Click here

If you having suicidal thoughts, or need someone to talk things through with, a benefit of becoming an Rffj member is that we offer a free confidential professional telephone “My offer to help members comes from personal experiences of family law, dealing with similar issues as those who find their way to Rffj”

“I understand the pain and loss of separation and how important it is to be able manage these very powerful emotions”

“Counselling is not about receiving advice; if you need practical help and advice on family law matters you are better of contacting the Rffj helpline headed by Ray Barry” (more info on advice service)counselling service, for non-members we recommend you contact the Samaritans.org

Assisting the Rffj team is experienced Psychotherapist and Counsellor Adrian, he is accredited with the Bacp and has a diploma in counselling, he uses the Bacp ethical framework to counselling, (More info on Bacp site)

Members seeking a referral initially can have a brief discussion with our counsellor to find out how we can help, and decide the best way forward.

“My offer to help members comes from personal experiences of family law, dealing with similar issues as those who find their way to Rffj”

“I understand the pain and loss of separation and how important it is to be able manage these very powerful emotions”

“Counselling is not about receiving advice; if you need practical help and advice on family law matters you are better of contacting the Rffj helpline headed by Ray Barry” (more info on advice service)

“People coming through the counselling experience will feel better about themselves, have greater self-esteem, increased resilience to difficult circumstances, understand their own feelings better and appreciate the feelings of those around them. They will feel more secure and be able to identify goals. They will be empowered with ‘tools’ to help them achieve these goals.”

“I will be able to offer two time slots for telephone counselling, these are Tuesday and Thursday evenings between 6 and 8pm, if enough people are in need of this kind of support I would also like to set up a therapy group”

Our counselling service is strictly for paid up members only, to request a referral email info@realfathersforjustice.org

To join or to donate Rffj visit our homepage and see the links for secure payments through googlecheckout

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One Hundred Thousand Children Involved In New Family Court Applications In The Past Year

According to UK Ministry of Justice figures, more than 98,000 children were involved in new family court applications in the past year, but with previous government statistics lacking confidence, this is probably somewhat higher and in the 100,000 plus range.

This is an outrageous figure and something needs to be done to protect our society from self-destruction. When parents separate, fathers are met with unaccountable, secret court hearings, biased CAFCASS officers and family laws that do not accept fathers as equal parents.

Without adequate laws in place, mothers are given too much opportunity to abuse their situation and use brainwashing or parental alienation to put a distance between the child and their father.

I myself am a victim of parental alienation in a situation where the mother of my child chose to move 100 miles away without even asking or consulting me, despite being involved in family court proceedings for more than 5 years and forced to take part in the new Parenting Information Programme.

Despite all if this and the judge’s warnings that this is not good for our child, her attitudes have not changed and she continues to act for her own selfish interests.

Alienating mothers have no respect for family court judges, are allowed to dictate cases, they do not listen to court orders in many cases and go unpunished for doing so.

There is little hope for children who are victims of divorce or separation and the Family Law Review was meant to address the imbalance of existing laws, but once again the best interests of children has been ignored and fathers are left in desperate situations without any support in the courts.

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Do fathers no longer have ANY rights at all?

Fathers denied legal rights to see their children after a break-up. Grandparents dismissed as causing ‘damage’ to their grandchildren when they ‘interfere’ in divorces.

The reforms to family law proposed by the Government’s adviser on families reads like some poisonous feminist tract from the Sixties.

David Norgrove’s Family Justice Review is a misguided piece of outdated, sexist nonsense which enshrines in law a mother’s unassailable right to raise her children — alone. 

Misguided: The Family Justice Review by David Norgrove is outdated, sexist nonsenseMisguided: The Family Justice Review by David Norgrove is outdated, sexist nonsense

Mr Norgrove decrees that fathers should have no legal right to enjoy time with their children when a relationship ends. He even says that for a father to have a ‘meaningful relationship’ with his children after his marriage breaks down can do ‘more harm than good’.

He claims his review is all based on what’s ‘best for the child’.
Yet he ignores decades of research that shows children from broken homes benefit from maintaining a stable, constant relationship with their mothers and their fathers, as well as with their extended family.

As Iain Duncan Smith says — and countless parents who’ve been through the agony of a divorce know — these reforms would ‘fuel the epidemic of fatherless families’.

And there is a terrible irony here: successive governments have, quite rightly, gone to huge efforts to ensure fathers from broken relationships support their children financially. Now they are being told that, despite that support, they will have no legal right to any access.

Few of us have been untouched by the break-up of a family, whether our own, our children’s or a friend’s.

I’m not saying all fathers are paragons — the sad truth is that both mothers and fathers use their children as pawns for maximum leverage in divorce negotiations. It’s just that the law as it stands gives women the upper hand.

In the bitterness of a divorce, some women use every dirty trick in the book to deny decent men access to their own children. I have even known normally sensible women, egged on by their divorce lawyers, to claim falsely that their husbands abused them, so as to deny them access to the children.

I’ve seen successful career women claiming poverty or even quitting work to screw every penny out of their children’s father, yet still deny him access.

Guilty till proved innocent is the dictum for dads in the Family Law Courts.
David Cameron has long promised his will be the most family-friendly government in history. He can prove it by condemning Mr Norgrove’s unjust Anti-Family Review and enshrining in law the right of every decent father to a fair share in the raising of his children.

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